Here I sit at the beginning of another new year. This is the time for reflection and projection, new leaves, and resolutions. Maybe its one of my obsessive behaviors, but I don’t need a time of year for this thinking. I am constantly looking backwards, then forwards…backwards, then forwards. It is likely that I suffer severely from emotional whiplash.
When I look backwards I see so many problems, so I whip my head toward the future and begin planning all of the solutions. My reflections consist mainly of pains I’ve suffered, and my projections consist of answers and solutions. The neck snaps when I get to the present and find that the plans and solutions aren’t playing out according to my calculations. So I look back again, whip forward again, arrive in the present disappointed and start the cycle all over again. I don’t want to suffer from this condition any longer. They say the definition of insanity is attempting the same things over and over again, expecting different results. I must then be coming out of insanity because; I no longer want the same result. While I don’t think I can change the reflection and projection part of my behavior, maybe I can change the focus of my reflections and projections and in this find a more preferable result.
My reflections need to shift from the things I don’t like and want to change to the things I am thankful for and hope to see again. We’ve had several rocky years over the last decade and 2010 fell right in line. It was an emotional roller coaster of yet more change for my family. I could look at all the frustrations of 2010, plot out yet another change, and try to fix things for 2011, that’s my usual habit. However, I think this year I want to look back and rejoice. There were many opportunities for things to have fallen far worse than they did, yet God sustained us. It really isn’t an exaggeration to say that I know how successful people are sleeping in suburbia one night and are cramming into a two bedroom apartment in the projects just six months later.
We started the year with one dying car and many hoops to jump through to taxi kids and get to our jobs on time. We received a gift of what we thought was to be a replacement car, however, without explanation, our first car began to run fine. I have to believe God healed it, there is no other explanation for why one day it was randomly downshifting and the next day it wasn’t. (If you have a theory, please keep it to yourself, because I like mine just fine.)
Then shortly before Christmas, when things were already tight and we were trying to figure out how we were going to tell the kids that Christmas was not coming to our house this year, both cars dropped dead in the driveway. For some people this would have meant no way to get to work and the eventual loss of their jobs. For me it easily could have meant getting angry and calling credit card companies to check for balances big enough to cover the costs. But, being at the end of that rope, there were no solutions this time. We were steps away from the spiral, and I was clinging to nothing but hope in my Heavenly Father. Not a single day of work was missed and we only had to borrow a car for a day or two. God brought our first car back to life again and sent a mechanic and a benevolent friend to repair the other at no cost to us.
As far as the Christmas issue. Someone approached James in church with a hefty fist of cash and said, “I believe God wants you to have this.” That with a few grandparent checks provided an excellent Christmas morning for our family.
The miracles of 2010 don’t stop there. Time and time again, I would sit down to plan the budget for the upcoming month, only to find our paychecks were only enough to pay the bills, utilities and rent. The only thing I could carve-down, and more often than not cut-out completely, was grocery money. Time and again our cupboards have been perilously bare; time and again gift cards have been randomly handed to us or friends have pulled into the driveway with hatches full of groceries for us.
I honestly don’t know how anyone survives without faith in a providential God and the love of a Church family. 2010 was our year of miracles. And I pray it will be the year that changed what I see when I look backwards.
The change I need to make with regard to looking forward is a little more challenging. While the backward-glance change is a matter of more intentional focus, the forward- glance change is a matter of faith and conviction. When I look forward making plans and dreaming big, I tend to project in selfish ideals. The things that get me out of bed and keep me moving are hopes for something better to come my way soon. Very little time is spent remembering where my sustenance came from in the past and who truly guides my steps. There is an independent control freak inside of me, constantly fighting to get her way. Putting to death this sinful nature (Romans 8:13, Colossians 3:5) is so much harder than the simple choice to have a grateful heart. You see, to be a responsible adult I must plan and prepare. However, to hold those plans loosely and to joyfully allow God to have His way with my life is a delicate balance, one that I must master if I am to move from the insanity.
“The heart of a man plans his way, but the Lord establishes His steps.” Prov. 16:9
Here is where the panic attack begins and I am overcome with tremendous fear. It wouldn’t take much to topple my little world and I am so convinced that if I don’t hold it together then no one else will. What arrogance, what sin! And this is why refocusing the reflection is so much harder than changing the projection.
The heart of the issue is the place of my hope. My hope is in my plan. I’ve already said that this is what keeps me going forward. Can I possibly realign my hope; put it in something bigger than my own plan?
“…rejoice in the hope of God’s glory.” Rom. 5:2
This has got to be one of the hardest things I have ever tried to accomplish. It means laying down every bit of selfishness, every bit of me; putting away my carefully laid plans for the exact opposite if I am asked to do so, desiring nothing for myself but God alone. Even if it means I will never see the result of my hope. How many martyrs have died not knowing what impact their testimonies have had? Hoping in something I can’t see or touch, something outside of my realm of understanding requires a faith so much bigger than me. It is what I want for 2011, and it is the hardest resolution I have ever aspired to. So I have only one hope of accomplishing this.
“My hope is in the Lord, who gave Himself for me. And paid the price of all my sin at Calvary.” Norman Clayton
“My soul waits for the Lord
more than watchmen for the morning,
more than watchmen for the morning.
7O hope in the LORD!
For with the LORD there is steadfast love,
and with him is plentiful redemption.
8And he will redeem…” Psalm 130: 6-8
By the grace of God and through His son Jesus Christ, I am able to move into a place of rejoicing in the past, giving thanks in my reflections. With the strength found in Him I will hold my projections loosely and allow Him alone to be my hope.